80 First Date Questions for Fun and Meaningful Conversation

A first date doesn’t have to be intimidating or full of awkward silences. Sure, it can be nerve-racking to meet someone new for the first time and wonder what they think about you. But it’s also a wonderful opportunity to get to know a new person and find out how much you might have in common!

A big part of making meaningful connections is to ask questions and be curious about the other person. That’s why I put together a fun list of 80 questions you can ask on a first date – if you never get stuck for topics, the conversation has little chance of stalling.

To me, a first date should be more than talking about surface-level topics the entire time. It should be used as an opportunity to truly get to know somebody and learn things about what makes them who they are. After all, you want to find out if this person could be a good partner for you, and discussing things like the weather and last night’s football game just aren’t going to cut it.

Types of First Date Questions

I have divided the list into the 8 areas of life that make us all who we are, with fun, easy, and not-too-deep questions for each one. You obviously won’t get to ask ALL of these on one date, but choose a handful that feel interesting and you genuinely would like to find out about your date!

Personal & Spiritual

While I’ve heard a lot of advice to avoid topics like religion and personal beliefs on a first date, I personally believe that if done tactfully, it’s a great way to discover someone’s true values. The following questions are great ice breakers to dive in a little deeper:

1. Do you consider yourself to be more spiritual or more religious?
2. Do you have any spiritual practices that you really enjoy?
3. What touches you most about the spiritual practice or religion you believe in?
4. What personality trait about yourself do you like the most?
5. How would you describe your sense of humor?
6. What are some of the things that drive you absolutely nuts?
7. What are some things you love or that make you happy?
8. What are your proudest accomplishments?
9. What are some of the things you’re most grateful for in life?
10. How do you like to relax after you’ve had a long day?

Physical Environment

Learning about the environment someone likes to live in can not also be very telling, but is a fun and interesting way to look into the other person’s world. This set of first date questions can help you do just that!

Try not to ask them in a way that sounds like you’re picturing the future home the two of you will share together (😂), but rather genuine curiosity about the home they have now.

1. What made you decide to live where you are living now?
2. Do you have any places that you dream of moving to someday?
3. What does your dream house look like?
4. What things would you consider before moving somewhere?
5. Are you more of a neat freak or more relaxed when it comes to chores?
6. What type of style do you like when it comes to décor?
7. What’s the most interesting place you’ve ever lived in?
8. Do you prefer to move around a lot or stay somewhere longer?
9. Where were you born?
10. What type of weather is your favorite and why?

Career & Business

I would imagine you probably already know the answer to the question: “Where do you/what do you do for work?” So I have chosen to omit it from this list. Instead, here are some deeper questions to get a deeper insight into how the other person likes to give back to the world.

1. What made you decide to go into the career field that you’re in now?
2. If you could do anything you wanted and get paid for it, what would it be?
3. What’s your favorite part about your job?
4. What’s your least favorite part about your job?
5. What does a typical workday look like for you?
6. What’s the most helpful thing you’ve learned at your job?
7. Do you prefer to take more of a leadership or follower role at work?
8. Do you see yourself still doing what you’re doing a few years from now?
9. Have you ever wanted to start your own business?
10. Is your work schedule pretty flexible or more strict?

Finances & Wealth

I know the last thing some of us like to do is ask about money, and I’m certainly not suggesting you should outright ask how much money is in their bank account. Instead, these questions are first date appropriate and can be a fun opportunity to learn about the other person’s views around money.

1. Do you consider yourself more of a spender or more of a saver?
2. What are some things you really enjoy buying or doing for yourself?
3. If someone gave you $1 million, what are the first three things you would do?
4. Do you get excited or stressed when it comes to talking about money?
5. Would you ever want to be rich and famous someday?
6. What do you think about dating someone who makes more money than you?
7. What are some of your favorite “guilty-pleasure” or “frivolous” things to buy?
8. What do you consider to be “expensive” when it comes to things like food, vacations, buying clothes, etc.?
9. How much money would you like to retire with someday?
10. Who is one of the wealthiest people you admire and why?

Friends & Family

Who doesn’t love learning about a potential partners friends and family? After all, they could be your family too someday… 😉 All jokes aside, these questions are great to learn about the family the other person grew up in and what their relationships are like now.

1. What was your immediate family like growing up?
2. Are you still close with any of your friends from childhood?
3. What are your relationships with your family members like now?
4. Who are some of your closest friends now?
5. What does it mean to you to be a good friend to someone?
6. If you could change one thing about the way you were raised, what would it be?
7. How do you feel about having a family of your own someday?
8. How often do you get to see or hang out with your family members?
9. How important is it to you for your significant other to have a relationship with your family?
10. How important is it to you for your significant other to have a relationship with your friends?

Fun, Recreation, & Entertainment

This is one of my favorite areas to ask questions, especially on a first date! Not only are they (literally) fun questions to ask, but it allows you the opportunity to find out what hobbies or activities you have in common. Conversations like these make it easy to figure out what you might do for a second date if the first date goes well.

1. What are some things you enjoy doing for fun?
2. Do you enjoy doing hobbies more solo or more with friends?
3. What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever tried?
4. What’s your favorite kind of music/some favorite artists?
5. What’s your favorite game?
6. What are your favorite TV shows and movies?
7. Do you prefer to hang out one-on-one with people or in big groups?
8. What are some new hobbies or activities you’ve been wanting to try?
9. What are some activities you hate doing?
10. How important is it for you to get social time during the week?

Health & Fitness

This area of questions touches on an important aspect, which is how the other person takes care of themselves. While this area might seem a little touchy at first, there are some light and curious questions you can ask without making it too awkward.

1. Do you play any sports/are you active at all?
2. What are your favorite sports to play or ways to exercise?
3. Did you play any sports in high school?
4. What do you consider to be a healthy lifestyle?
5. What kind of meals did you grow up eating?
6. Do you enjoy prefer cooking at home or eating out more?
7. Do you have any favorite recipes or meals?
8. Are you more of a morning person or a night owl?
9. What is your diet like (are you vegan, vegetarian, etc.)?
10. Would you ever try going vegan or vegetarian?

Love Life

Don’t be afraid to get into these types of questions, even on the first date! It is a date after all, so this can be a fun and flirty way to find out about how the other person likes to give and receive affection in a relationship. It can also help you figure out their intentions for dating and whether or not you’re on the same page.

1. How do you like to give love in a relationship?
2. How do you like to receive love in a relationship?
3. Do you see yourself wanting to settle down with someone, or do you prefer to casually date?
4. What are the most important elements of a relationship to you?
5. What are some of your values that you would want a partner to have in common?
6. Do you prefer to date someone more similar or someone more different than you?
7. What are some behaviors in a relationship that wouldn’t work for you?
8. Do you prefer lots of togetherness or more separateness in a relationship?
9. How do you feel about public displays of affection?
10. Do you prefer to communicate via call or via text?

Conclusion

There are so many meaningful first date questions you can ask to get to know someone. Just remember that it doesn’t have to feel like you’re “prying” or going to deep with someone you just met – it’s all about your delivery and remembering that you’re just genuinely interested in the other person! I believe the questions I have presented here will go a long way in helping you to feel connected to your date and hopefully, wanting to get to know them further in the future.